Family and living in the same city.

There is a HUGE misconception about living in the same area/city as family. I live in a huge, amazing city...and I share that same city with 2 adult cousins and an Aunt. Part of this misconception is certainly my fault. I assumed that just because they're family and we all live somewhat close, there would be gatherings, visits, lunches....but i was wrong. Now you have to understand I FULLY understand that this is some of my fault, I too could call or stop over...but I never hear my phone ringing either.